It’s not even a job. I work for him extremely part time and extremely for free, but was an unbelievable honor for me when I got that position, because I’ve looked up to Dan since high school. I have never heard that he was transphobic before, but you’re right: I have read/heard him say things that are not so good and wrote them off as being part of his tone. He has said stuff that I find offensive, but I always thought that was part of his deal. It never occurred to me that he was actually hurting anyone.
I doubt that everyone feels the way I do, just as I doubt that everyone feels the way you do, but this isn’t about the merits of Dan Savage anymore: it’s about tumblr semantics. Suffice it to say that I wasn’t trolling when I asked for evidence: I was asking for evidence. I even posted some on my own blog, but checking that out would have been too much research for everyone who’s mad at me now I guess.
Wait, it’s too much for anyone else to expect that you would have noticed Dan Savage is a giant bag for the application of douche at some point in your following his work, but people are supposed to be randomly checking your blog before they respond to you, on the off chance that you yourself went looking for evidence and posted it there?
That’s not “research”. I sometimes check out people’s blogs when I’m talking to them, but it’s not like a required step in responding to something that you said.
…and what you posted is exactly what I was talking about. Here’s him saying something that’s incredibly racist, something that actively contributes to the harm of both gay people and Black people and most particularly Black people who happen to be gay, and your response is, “Oh, good, I thought he’d said the n-word or something I’d have to pretend to care about.”
Volunteer position? If we were talking about your livelihood I would say “Do what you have to do.”, but if you’re going to keep writing for him because it’s an “honor”… ugh. A lot of people admired Dan Savage when they were in high school. Are you still in high school?
Yes, the offensive stuff is part of his deal, his schtick, his persona. What does that change about anything? If someone went around being a horrible person by accident, would that somehow be worse than him doing it on purpose? Ugh.
I’m in the middle of an experiment in not using “swear words” and one of the things it’s reinforcing is how much the vocabulary of human experience needs them, because as expansive as my personal vocabulary is, I am finding it very difficult to convey what I’m feeling right now.
Fuck Dan Savage. Motherfuck Fucking fuckity fuck fuck that fucking douchefucker. He’s a shitstain and has convinced people that he’s awesome simply because he’s saying “hey I’m a gay dood and I’m not ashamed of that.”
That is not the only requirement to being a decent person. How about actively trying not to do harm, and not actively trying to help other people spread the harm they do?
Because that’s what you are doing pancakes.
Fuck. How can you not see that.